The World of Conscious Kink and Empowered Connection

Whether you’re here to explore BDSM and Kink or simply curious about how my background as a trained ProDom shapes my work as a coach, this is where you’ll find insight into the skills and perspectives I bring to every session.

Discover New Depths of Desire in the Boardroom or the Bedroom

Step into a world where curiosity meets transformation, where exploring your desires opens doors to deeper connection and profound self-awareness. Conscious Kink is a journey that transcends techniques, offering a pathway to self-discovery, passionate connection, and powerful emotional release. Whether it’s deepening intimacy in the bedroom, fostering meaningful platonic relationships, or unlocking your potential in business, this work is about discovering what truly fulfills you and embracing it fully. It’s a bold, liberating exploration of who you are and what you truly want.

As both a graduate and Teaching Assistant (call an 'Angel') of the Dom(me) Mastery Program, taught by Mistress Kimi Inch, Matthew combines advanced skills with a profound respect for the transformative potential of kink. Whether you’re new to kink or looking to deepen your practice, here you’ll find a safe, inviting space where boundaries are respected, desires are explored, and new dimensions of connection are discovered.

The Transformational Benefits of Conscious Kink

Conscious Kink offers profound benefits that extend far beyond the techniques. It’s a journey into vulnerability and power, providing a unique space where clients can experience the deep freedom of letting go, of releasing control, or of embracing it fully. This work allows you to access parts of yourself that may feel hidden in everyday life, offering both a safe space to be vulnerable and a powerful avenue for personal empowerment.

Vulnerability and Power Are Connected: In Conscious Kink, vulnerability and power go hand in hand. For those in a submissive role, there is tremendous freedom in feeling safe enough to let go, knowing your boundaries are respected and every moment is intentional. It’s an experience that fosters trust, intimacy, and self-acceptance, allowing you to feel your own strength from a place of openness.

For those stepping into a dominant role, there’s the profound responsibility that comes with guiding and supporting another. Here, you’ll discover the power of trust, respect, and the careful balance of authority and empathy. Many clients find that this experience transforms their understanding of leadership and connection.

A Break from Everyday Roles: For high achievers, leaders, and caretakers, this work can be one of the few times they are allowed to completely let go—free from the responsibilities of shareholders, employees, household management, or daily pressures. It’s a space to leave behind the “to-do” lists, to drop the expectations, and to simply be present. For those who wish to take their power, doing so in a safe consensual space can provide your mind and body with the experiences needed to take power back in your everyday reality. Whether taking on a submissive role and experiencing the power of release or embracing the full responsibility of being in control, Conscious Kink offers a unique freedom that can be deeply restorative and liberating.

Connection and Fulfillment: Conscious Kink invites you to experience connection on a deeper level—whether with yourself, with a partner, or with the aspects of yourself that are often unseen. It’s about allowing yourself to feel fully, to let go of judgment, and to embrace desires that may have been buried. The result is often a profound sense of fulfillment and joy, a deeper understanding of self, and a richer, more connected approach to life.

Conscious Kink also offers benefits that extend beyond the session itself. The insights and confidence you gain here can translate into greater emotional resilience, clarity, and communication in other areas of your life. Many clients report feeling more empowered in their personal and professional relationships, with an enhanced ability to set boundaries, express their needs, and understand others with empathy and respect. This work has the potential to positively impact every aspect of your life.

A Parallel Journey: Growth and Conscious Kink Sessions

Both Growth Sessions and Conscious Kink sessions provide structured, transformative experiences centered on self-awareness, exploration, and emotional release. Here’s how these paths align, step-by-step:

1. Setting Intentions

Growth Session: We begin by asking, “What would you like to change about yourself?” This question encourages you to reflect deeply on areas of growth or transformation that matter to you. By setting a clear intention, we create a roadmap that keeps us focused on your personal goals, while offering a framework for meaningful exploration.

BDSM Session: Here, the question becomes, “What would you like to experience?” This invitation opens the door to your desires and curiosities, honoring whatever resonates most with you. Setting an intention gives purpose to the session and fosters a sense of shared understanding, ensuring that every action taken aligns with your wishes.

2. Exploring Motivation and Desired Outcome

Growth Session: Next, we explore why you want these changes and how you hope to feel afterward. This step reveals the deeper motivations behind your goals, whether they’re emotional, personal, or relational. Understanding your "why" helps clarify the desired outcome, allowing us to approach the work with shared purpose, and ultimately, with greater impact.

BDSM Session: In a BDSM scene, we similarly delve into why specific experiences are desired and what emotions or sensations you’re seeking. This conversation enriches the session by connecting the experience to your inner motivations, allowing each step to be grounded in intention. Together, we ensure that both the journey and outcome align with your true desires.

3. Defining Boundaries and Safety

Growth Session: Defining boundaries is crucial to creating a safe, secure container for growth. Here, we discuss the approaches and methods that will best support you, and set clear emotional boundaries to establish trust. Knowing that your autonomy is prioritized helps you feel safe enough to open up fully, creating the freedom to explore vulnerable emotions without hesitation.

BDSM Session: Safety and trust are the foundation of a BDSM scene. In preparation, we thoroughly negotiate boundaries, limits, and safe words, ensuring a consensual environment where you are in control. This detailed discussion builds mutual trust, allowing you to let go within a carefully held space. Every action and response is designed with respect for your limits, honoring your autonomy while fostering a deeply safe experience. This assurance allows you to engage openly, knowing that your boundaries will be honored at every step.

4. Entering the Transformative Experience

Growth Session: During the core of a growth session, we engage in a “piece-of-work” that often brings profound emotional release or clarity. This process enables you to address core patterns or unresolved emotions, resulting in a lasting shift in perspective. Many find this experience both challenging and freeing, as it provides the depth needed for genuine, transformative change.

BDSM Session: In a BDSM session, reaching sub-space—a deeply meditative and focused state—can mirror this transformative experience. Sub-space allows you to let go fully, often encountering feelings and sensations that may have been suppressed. This space fosters a unique form of release and introspection, enabling you to access new emotional territory and potentially shift old patterns in a visceral, embodied way.

5. Integration and Aftercare

Growth Session: Once the core work is complete, we spend time discussing how to integrate your new insights and shifts into daily life. This integration step ensures that the session’s impact becomes part of your everyday reality, giving you practical ways to apply the transformation you’ve experienced.

BDSM Session: In a BDSM scene, aftercare plays a crucial role in closing the experience. Aftercare provides dedicated time to emotionally support and stabilize you, allowing you to process and internalize the experience while feeling fully cared for. This step is essential for helping you transition smoothly, nurturing any insights or feelings that surfaced during the session, and guiding you to carry these realizations into the rest of your life.

This parallel journey shows how both growth and BDSM sessions are designed with intention, safety, and integration in mind. Each offers a powerful avenue for personal exploration, supported by trust, allowing you to access and embrace new depths of self-awareness, connection, and empowerment.

Your Unique Path to Empowerment, Intimacy, and Adventure

Conscious Kink with Matthew offers you a chance to explore desires that you may have only imagined. This is a place for mature individuals, curiosity seekers, and couples who are ready to go beyond the ordinary. Together, we’ll create a customized experience that’s designed just for you.

Who This Is For:

Curious Explorers: If you’ve always been drawn to kink but felt uncertain or held back, this is a safe, respectful space to finally dive in and see what’s possible.

High Achievers Seeking Connection: For those who may be successful in many areas of life but crave deeper personal and relational fulfillment.

Individuals Seeking Release: Experience the incredible freedom of letting go, knowing that your boundaries will be honored and respected.

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Skills, Techniques, and Fantasy Exploration

Exploring Conscious Kink is about more than just learning techniques—it’s about building a foundation of trust, respect, and deep connection. These sessions with Matthew cover essential skills for creating safe and fulfilling experiences, whether in a personal or shared dynamic.

Embodiment and Attunement with a Partner: Learn to be fully present with yourself and others, cultivating a heightened awareness of physical and emotional cues. This practice builds deep attunement, allowing you to feel connected to your partner’s rhythms, responses, and energy, enhancing the quality and depth of your shared experience.

Communication and Negotiation: Clear, honest communication is at the heart of Conscious Kink. You’ll learn how to openly discuss desires, boundaries, and intentions, and negotiate them in a way that feels authentic and comfortable. This skill is essential for creating safe, satisfying experiences and is often transformative in other areas of life as well.

Prioritizing Safety: Safety is the foundation of any meaningful kink experience. From understanding the physical limits to creating a space of emotional security, Matthew will guide you in building practices that protect both you and your partner. This includes setting up safe words, understanding cues, and establishing clear boundaries to ensure everyone feels respected and protected.

Scene Work: Delve into the creation of an intentional scene, exploring different realms of play that can enhance trust, excitement, and connection. Scene work can include impact play (using hands, paddles, floggers, etc.), bondage techniques (like Shibari ropework and leather cuffs), sensation play (exploring different textures and sensations on the skin), role play (stepping into different personas to deepen the experience), power play (navigating dominance and submission dynamics), and psychological play (using mental and emotional elements to heighten intensity). Each session is crafted to introduce you to these realms safely, with an emphasis on intentionality, control, and communication.

Aftercare: Kink experiences can bring up a wide range of emotions. Aftercare is the practice of nurturing yourself and your partner after an intense experience, providing comfort, connection, and support. You’ll learn how to honor and care for each other post-session, ensuring that the experience leaves you both feeling seen, understood, and emotionally grounded.

Building a Safe, Transformative Space

Matthew is dedicated to creating a space where you feel secure, seen, and respected. This journey is grounded in values that ensure your comfort, autonomy, and growth:

Confidentiality: Everything shared and experienced remains private, allowing you to explore freely without reservation.

Consent and Respect: Every experience is built on clear communication and mutual agreement, establishing a foundation of trust and respect.

Adult Space: This is a mature, empowering environment, inviting you to take care of yourself and explore at your own pace.

All Emotions Welcome: Whatever arises—joy, laughter, tears, fears, or vulnerability—everything you feel here is valid and honored.

Be Open to Learning: Approach with curiosity and a willingness to learn. This is a space for growth, exploration, and self-discovery.

Private and Group Session Options

Conscious Kink training is designed to meet you wherever you are in your journey, offering options for both individual and group exploration:

Private Sessions: Perfect for one-on-one or couples’ experiences. Single-hour, multi-hour, or ongoing sessions allow you to go as deep as you choose, with each session crafted to your specific interests and goals.

Group Workshops and Seminars: Whether you’re part of a small group of friends or a large community, Matthew offers workshops and immersive seminars that range from 4-hour introductions to multi-day experiences. These sessions are ideal for exploring kink within a supportive community, covering essential skills, philosophies, and live demonstrations to create a memorable, connective experience.

Ready to Embark on Your Journey?


If you’re ready to dive into a world of passion, power, and possibility, reach out to Matthew Riven. Whether you’re curious about exploring Conscious Kink, eager to strengthen your connection with a partner, or simply seeking to discover more about yourself, this is your invitation to step into a world that honors your desires and potential.

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While the activity here may sound like ‘therapy’ it is not, and should not take the place of working with a licensed therapist.

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