Do you Crave More?
Not Just Sensation, but more Truth?
Not Just Connection, but Intimacy?
Then it's time to STIR THINGS UP!
What do you seek?
More Connection. More Charge. More Clarity.
You want to feel held, not just tied.
Seen, not just watched.
Chosen, not just taken.
This training is for the part of you that’s done performing.
The part that wants to play with power and presence.
To stop hiding what turns you on—and start relating through it.
Whether you’re craving surrender, control, intensity, or attunement—this is where we turn k!nk into a practice of erotic self-awareness and relational depth.
You bring your desire.
We’ll show you how to meet it with your whole self—and how to meet someone else there, too.
STIR THINGS UP Conscious K!nk Training
Attuned Power. Erotic Intention. Relational Depth.
This training is for individuals, couples, throuples, and groups who want to bring more intention, clarity, and connection into their erotic dynamics.
Whether you’re new to k!nk or deep in the scene, this isn’t about learning how to “do BD$M right.”
It’s about how to relate—to yourself and others—with presence and power.
You’ll learn to tune into your body, express desire without shame, navigate intensity with care, and co-create scenes that are as emotionally rich as they are erotically charged.
This STIR THINGS UP! Training Is For You If:
K!nk-curious folks who want to explore safely, without losing themselves in the process
Established players ready to deepen trust, nuance, and relational feedback
Couples and groups feeling stuck, out of sync, or craving more heat and honesty
Anyone who wants to practice erotic connection with more truth, tenderness, and turn-on
You do not need prior BD$M experience. Just curiosity, a willingness to self-reflect, and an open mind.
What You'll Learn in the STIR THINGS UP Training
Presence
How to stay emotionally and somatically in the scene—whether you're topping, bottoming, or switching
How to track your nervous system and your partner’s, even in intense dynamics
Practices for staying grounded when power shifts or emotions rise
Attunement
How to read your partner's cues, spoken and unspoken
How to give and receive feedback without breaking the scene
What “yes” really means—and how to find the living edge of consent
Intention
How to name and explore the deeper why behind your desires
How to use negotiation as foreplay (and safety net)
How to build a scene that reflects what you both want to feel, not just do
STIR THINGS UP Topics Include:
Impact Play: How to use rhythm, pressure, and presence to build trust—not just sensation
Bondage & Restraint: Containment as intimacy; how to hold and be held safely
Psychological Play: The art of dominance and submission through voice, energy, and archetype
Desire & Identity: How our erotic patterns reflect core beliefs, wounds, and longings
Aftercare & Repair: What it means to come back to each other—emotionally, not just physically
Why Conscious K!nk?
There’s nothing inherently healing or harmful about k!nk.
It’s what you bring to it that makes the difference.
At STIR, we teach k!nk as a path to:
Deepened intimacy
Emotional release and repair
Greater self-trust and agency
A more empowered relationship to pleasure, boundaries, and vulnerability
This is where shadow meets sovereignty.
Where desire becomes a tool for transformation.
Where you stop performing and start relating.
The Science (and the Myths)
You don’t have to justify your desires—but it’s helpful to know the truth behind them.
✅ People in consensual k!nk relationships report higher levels of communication, trust, and satisfaction than many non-k!nked peers (Barker et al., 2007)
✅ BD$M scenes can release oxytocin and endorphins, creating bonding and nervous system regulation (Sagarin et al., 2009)
❌ Myth: “K!nk is just trauma reenactment.”
✅ Truth: Desire has many roots—some playful, some painful. What matters is how we engage it, and with whom.
❌ Myth: “Dom = controlling / Sub = weak”
✅ Truth: Healthy Domination requires self-regulation, empathy, and clarity. Submission takes courage, discernment, and agency.
Presented by Matthew Riven
Matthew Riven is a coach and educator known for his candid, compassionate work around power, desire, and emotional integration. Drawing from 15+ years of experience with Transactional Analysis, Re-decision work, and Conscious K!nk, he supports clients and clinicians alike in navigating relational patterns, reclaiming agency, and engaging with desire as a source of growth—not pathology. And he does so while keeping you—and your clients—safe.
Matthew’s training as a Professional Dom offers a rare, embodied insight into power dynamics—without sensationalism. His teaching invites clinicians into deeper emotional intelligence, k!nk-competence, and grounded therapeutic presence. He provides you the means to maintain balance, especially when the material gets edgy.
Upcoming STIR THINGS UP Dates
Format:
Live, experiential workshop. Includes individual reflection, partner practice, optional group roleplay, and somatic integration.
No sexual contact during training. All activities are fully clothed, consent-based, and opt-in.
Length Options:
Half-Day Intensive
Full-Day Immersion
Next Offering:
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