Meet Matthew Riven, a seasoned practitioner with a diverse skill set and a passion for guiding individuals toward personal growth and transformation. With over fifteen years of experience in Transactional Analysis and somatic therapies, Matthew brings a unique perspective to his work. He’s trained at the SouthEast Institute in Cary, NC, and the SagePoint Institute in Ann Arbor, MI. He’s received a Dom(me) Mastery Certification in Conscious K!nk & Domination Techniques from &More in Austin, TX—yes, it's a real thing! He is currently a teaching assistant in this year’s Dom(me) Mastery Training certification course. As a professionally-trained Dom, Matthew specializes in using k!nk within a somatic framework, helping clients explore their desires and boundaries in a safe and consensual manner.
But don't let the k!nk aspect overshadow the breadth of Matthew's expertise. With an MBA and an MS in public health, Matthew offers a holistic approach to personal development, drawing from his educational background, extensive training, and real-life experiences. Whether you prefer to call him a Personal Growth Advisor, Transformational Partner, Mindset Mentor, or Healing Dom, Matthew's mission remains the same–to help you overcome obstacles, validate your desires, and fulfill your goals–to allow you to achieve the life you desire.
Why isn't Matthew licensed? Simply put, he believes that growth knows no boundaries. Unlike licensed therapists who are restricted to working within a specific state or province, Matthew chooses to work with clients regardless of their geographical location. He refuses to let geography dictate who he can help and is committed to supporting clients wherever they may be on their journey toward personal fulfillment.
STIR represents a fusion of psychology, s_exuality, desire, business acumen, public health, and Conscious K!nk, all working together to empower individuals and enhance their well-being.
S - S_x: At the core of our existence lies the pursuit of pleasure. Whether it's the quest for physical sensations, emotional fulfillment, or intellectual stimulation, our desires drive us to explore, create, and connect in ways that enrich our lives. Let's embrace pleasure as a guiding force in shaping our experiences and making life more enjoyable.
T - Trauma: Trauma is an inevitable part of the human experience. Whether it's big or small, every traumatic event leaves its mark, shaping our perceptions and influencing our behaviors. Our mission is to help individuals navigate through their traumas, guiding them towards healing, peace, and understanding.
I - Intimacy: We all crave intimacy, yet many of us fear it. Fear of vulnerability and lack of trust often hinder our ability to form meaningful connections. At STIR, we recognize the importance of emotional, physical, and intellectual intimacy, both with others and with ourselves. We're here to support you in cultivating deeper, more authentic connections that enrich your life.
R - Relationships: Humans are inherently social beings, reliant on relationships for survival and well-being. However, in today's fast-paced world, loneliness has become an epidemic. We believe in the power of relationships to nurture and sustain us. Whether it's fostering healthier relationships with ourselves or with others, we're committed to helping you build the meaningful connections you crave.
The work we do at STIR is built on five guiding principles that foster conscious, lasting change. Through these principles, we’ll guide you toward clarity, connection, and authentic self-expression.
Awareness – Discover the patterns that keep you stuck. Through mindful self-reflection, we’ll help you gain clarity around your desires and boundaries, so you can approach life with intention and authenticity.
Consent – Build relationships on trust and mutual respect. Every interaction at STIR is designed to honor your boundaries, ensuring a space where you can express yourself fully and without reservation.
Connection – Strengthen your capacity for real intimacy. Through our work, you’ll develop the trust, vulnerability, and empathy that allow for deep, meaningful connections.
Exploration – Expand your comfort zone. We encourage a spirit of curiosity as you safely explore new perspectives, experiences, and roles that bring you closer to your true self.
Transformation – Step into a life that reflects who you truly are. With STIR’s guidance, you’ll gain the tools to overcome past conditioning, embrace self-acceptance, and pursue a life of authenticity and fulfillment.
While the activity here may sound like ‘therapy’ it is not, and should not take the place of working with a licensed therapist.
Who am I?
Meet Matthew Riven, a seasoned practitioner with a diverse skill set and a passion for guiding individuals toward personal growth and transformation. With over fifteen years of experience in Transactional Analysis and somatic therapies, Matthew brings a unique perspective to his work. He’s trained at the SouthEast Institute in Cary, NC, and the SagePoint Institute in Ann Arbor, MI. He’s received a Dom(me) Mastery Certification in Conscious K!nk & Domination Techniques from &More in Austin, TX—yes, it's a real thing! He is currently a teaching assistant in this year’s Dom(me) Mastery Training certification course. As a professionally-trained Dom, Matthew specializes in using k!nk within a somatic framework, helping clients explore their desires and boundaries in a safe and consensual manner.But don't let the k!nk aspect overshadow the breadth of Matthew's expertise. With an MBA and an MS in public health, Matthew offers a holistic approach to personal development, drawing from his educational background, extensive training, and real-life experiences. Whether you prefer to call him a Personal Growth Advisor, Transformational Partner, Mindset Mentor, or Healing Dom, Matthew's mission remains the same–to help you overcome obstacles, validate your desires, and fulfill your goals–to allow you to achieve the life you desire.Why isn't Matthew licensed? Simply put, he believes that growth knows no boundaries. Unlike licensed therapists who are restricted to working within a specific state or province, Matthew chooses to work with clients regardless of their geographical location. He refuses to let geography dictate who he can help and is committed to supporting clients wherever they may be on their journey toward personal fulfillment.
The STIR Institute is the creation of Matthew Riven. It is a center built upon the culmination of a number of routes of study. STIR is a mix of psychology, s_ex, desire, business, public health, and Conscious K!nk, and how bringing all this together can create such healing. The acronym “STIR” reflects all of this.
S- S_x
For our desires. Our pursuit of pleasure is the underlying force propelling much of human behavior, influencing our decisions, actions, and interactions with the world around us. Whether seeking physical sensation, emotional fulfillment, or intellectual stimulation, the desire for pleasure motivates us to explore, create, and connect in ways that enrich our lives and define our experiences. Let’s make life more pleasurable!
T- Trauma
Everyone has trauma. No one gets out of childhood unscathed, and as adults there are infinitely more ways for trauma to find us. Whether it’s big-T trauma or little-T trauma, every traumatic experience impacts us and how we work through life. Helping people heal their traumas to get to peace and understanding is our goal.
I- Intimacy
We crave intimacy and yet fear it deeply. We are scared of being vulnerable and don’t trust others to see us and hear us for who we are. Yet we all need intimacy- emotional, physical, and intellectual intimacy…with others and with ourselves! We work with you to build a deeper, more powerful intimacy for yourself and for others.
R- Relationships
Whether with ourselves or others, humans are an innately connected species. We are born requiring the assistance of others to stay alive. From this moment forward, relationships are key to our survival and our health. There is an epidemic of loneliness in the world, and we are here to help you create the relationships you crave in your world.